Love on the Air - Podcast of The Whole Parent

  Have you ever met someone and felt the immediate electrical shock of sexual chemistry? It is sort of the panacea most of us are seeking when we approach our next lover/relationship/partner. Maybe not everyone is into sex, but… Well, I’ll leave it at that. When the sexual chemistry is on, I know immediately that I am in trouble. I need to take sexual intelligence into consideration and not just sexual chemistry. You can read this entire podcast here on The Whole Parent. Thanks, John McElhenney

In my conversation with Krysta Rosina, I am delighted to learn about her sex-positive approach to life and living. From an ecstatic tantric experience several years ago, she redirected her life's work. In this conversation, we explore her first massive tantric event. Wow. I was a little envious. And we quickly moved on to stories of love, intimacy, and looking for the one.  "I was really focused on finding the perfect partner," she says about herself, pre-awakening. "I chased desire, but those relationships didn't last very long. I knew there was something more." She has put the last several years into that journey of discovery. And in this conversation, we will talk about her work as a sex-positive practitioner. What does that even mean? And what is sex-positive? Why are these younger women getting so jazzed up about breaking down the stigma surrounding sex in our modern culture?  The conversation ran long, and I talked too much, but it was energizing and delightful. We end in a quick check-in and meditation. A momentary namasté for all of us, along our own journeys to discover our true inner bliss. You can find Krysta's work on her website: krystatantric A goddess for sure. Stay loving. Be more loving to each other. And most importantly, be extra loving to yourself. We're all healing in these tough times. Keep going. Bliss is within your body and within your reach.  Namasté, John McElhenney – life coach austin texasFacebook  | Instagram | Pinterest |  @wholeparent

When we are mood challenged, we’ve got to assemble our care team with care and focus. You need professionals on your team. A talky doctor, a meds doctor, and others, who can guide and support you through the challenging journey ahead. If you know you’re moody, maybe begin to observe what things take you higher and what things bum you out. Do more of the good stuff and less of the bad stuff. To my friends and lovers who have suggested my antidepressants are unhealthy or masking my real feelings… Um, yes, I love you, but you have no idea what you’re talking about. Let’s establish some healthy boundaries right upfront. The Al-Anon program will give you a great system for staying focused on your own issues and not the issues of another person. I alone am responsible for how I navigate each day of my life. My care team comes into play when I have questions or need a fresh perspective on what I’m struggling with. Make sure you’ve got people around you that you can contact when you need them.   Read the full article here: Finding Balance

Each one of us wants to feel loved. We seek a partner. We navigate dating introductions to hopefully find someone to share our lives with. We commit to a relationship and try to make it work. We fail. And we find the courage and energy to start over. We all want to be loved. We seek love. We find someone to love. Then what happens next? Being in a loving relationship is a continuous process of micro-corrections in our everyday lives together. We will all have difficulties and disagreements, the trick is how we choose to address them as a couple. In a healthy and consciously aware relationship, we can make choices that move us towards our partner. read it all at The Whole Parent

Here’s the thing we all want to talk about. Or, we don’t want to talk about. But, we need to talk about. There is a lot we don’t know about sex. My sex. Your sex. Sex with another person. Sex other than hetero-ciz white male sex. That’s my DNA, I can’t change it. I’m willing to learn. I’m willing to discover our sexual preferences. I’m even open to exploring my outside edge when it comes to sexual turn-ons and turn-offs. What I don’t know about, I won’t assume I don’t like. “Let’s find out together.” Read the entire article here: Sexual Fulfillment

Happy With Things Just As They Are I learned to be happy in spite of the divorce. I found a way to embrace myself and my joy within the darkness and aloneness that tried to overwhelm me after the divorce. I lost my kids and I knew I’d have to reemerge as a happy and healthy dad, so they could learn from my example. I am showing my kids how to live. I am giving them examples, even now, nine years after the divorce, of how to form healthy relationships. And I am attempting to keep sharing my happiness and hopefulness with them. I wish I could’ve had more time with my kids. I wish my then-wife had agreed to 50/50 shared parenting. I wish my ex-wife would be a more collaborative parent. But even as I wish about these things, even as I can feel regret about the lost time, I am HAPPIER NOW THAN I HAVE EVER BEEN IN MY LIFE. Read the entire post here: Next-Level Parenting

I’d like to imagine that I get better and better at sex over time. Of course, my aging body may have a slightly different course, but, at the moment, we’re all on the up and up. No little blue helper is needed at this point. Still, sex is different. Deeper, richer, and less concentrated on the orgasm. But this didn’t happen overnight. This happened as an evolution. I listened to my partners, I read books about sexual intelligence, I tuned in to my own body and tried to decipher its hidden messages. Here’s what I learned: I’m evolving. Sex Gets Better and Deeper the More You Practice Just like any other physical activity (yoga, running, swimming, tennis) sex gets better the more you practice. Sometimes it’s good to practice by yourself, to understand your own mechanics and proclivities. In a relationship, it’s good to tune into the rhythms of your sexual desires, understanding that sometimes they will not be in sync, but when they are… Watch out. Monogamy offers the opportunity to practice and meditate and discuss sex for an extended period of time. Over time, I can learn ways to get us both off. Over time, I can discover ways to get you off that leave me completely fulfilled as well. Over time, I can set both our bodies on fire with a few words of poetry and a gentle brush of my fingers across the back of your neck. Over time, I’m going to find the places that drive you mad. I promise not to overuse them. And I promise to keep exploring, seeking, new erogenous zones, ones that neither of us has ever uncovered.   You can read the entire article on The New Language of Sex from The Whole Parent.

In the past, I had a partner who had a hard time deciding where she wanted to eat. I’d say something like, “Well, can we start with what kind of food you want to get?” “Um, I don’t really care.” “All right, how about breakfast tacos?” “No.” “TexMex? “No.” “Okay, how about Italian or Thai?” “I don’t know.” STOP. Okay, this is a simplified example. But here is what I’ve learned about myself (that I am attempting to understand better in this post) in this example. I Want To Know Your Decision, Your Wishes, What YOU Want I'll see you on the whole parent. Here is the text of this episode.  Pausing In the Gap on The Whole Parent.

In our conversation, Eva and I cover a lot of ground about sex and relationships. And here were my immediate takeaways that will be fleshed out in the full podcast. This is a fraction of what we cover: Sexual awareness and liberation begin with yourself. Your own experience of sex. What turns you on. How you please yourself. How confident and comfortable you are with your own sexual body. I had to give a hearty yes to this one. And it dovetails nicely into Eva's path to progress in her work. Desire Body Voice Desire: If you understand your desire and what you want (both in a partner, in a sexual experience, and in life) you can take clear and intentional actions toward that goal. Your desire is your guide and your fuel. Your path is always towards what you want. Tuning into your desire is step one. Body: Your body is where the magic happens. This is where ecstasy happens, and this is where trauma or dysfunction can also be trapped. By connecting with and having conscious conversations with your own body you can begin to unlock more energy to fuel your journey. Shut down parts of our body are where we store shame, trauma, sexual fears, inhibition. Voice: By connecting with your desire and your body you can give rise to a more powerful and directed voice. Your authenticity comes through when you are connected to your body and your ambitious desire. You must give voice to your goals and needs. Even in leadership outside the bedroom, a person who is well-grounded in self-love and awareness has a stronger stance to lead the rest of the world from. In the board room and in the bedroom, desire is the fire that gets things done. The more you can connect and harness your desires and aspirations, the more power and passion you will have to light the way forward to creating your best life.   You can find Eva Blake's information on her Facebook page Liberating Desire: Sex, Love, Relationships Be sure and listen to the whole podcast to get the most out of Eva's advice and expertise. And check The Whole Parent for more illuminating content about relationship-building, dating, sex, and parenting.   John McElhenney - Relationship-Building Coach

That’s what life is all about. Time. Who you give it to. How you spend it. What you do with your life defines how your life will be.  If This Moment is All We Have (read online) Then everything we are thinking, from moment to moment, form our experience of life. If we are living in regret of things that didn’t go as we planned, to losses, or broken promises, we’re missing this present moment. (There are places and time for processing regrets, but you must get over them, and let go of the ongoing pain of regret.) If we are living in fear of the coming storm we are missing this beautiful moment of now. Many great thinkers have spoken of this “present moment” awareness with much greater clarity and insight than I can, but I am going to add my moments of enlightenment to this conversation.